I have to admit that Valentine’s day isn’t a big deal at our house. It felt weird to me that there was a day where all the girls expected their boyfriends to buy them stuff. It just felt so fake, a feeling I never wanted to allow in my relationships. Turns out the hubster felt the same, he wouldn’t even let me call him my boyfriend at first because he didn’t like what that meant in High School.
Direct quote: ‘They acted like they were married!’
So the hubster and I normally don’t buy any cards, flowers, or chocolates. Instead we plan simple at home dates-and we love it.
Being at home away from the crowd, also allows us to leave that Junior High feeling behind, and be more genuine. One of our favorite Valentines was a last minute picnic. We ordered pizza and ate it on a blanket on the living room floor. It was so simple, but different enough to make our dinner special. It also didn’t hurt that the local pizza joint shaped their pizza’s into a heart-we got a fun surprise when we opened that box. 🙂
This last year we had our favorite V-day celebration. Since I was struggling with my brain fog and stress levels I decided to surprise the hubster with a spa themed date. Most men I know enjoy a good massage and the hubster is no exception. This guy loves being pampered, and I really needed some help to relax so it was a win win!
Spa Date at Home
I had it all prepped so I could turn our front room into a spa while he read stories to the kids. I typically clean up downstairs while he reads to them so he had no idea what was coming. As we came down the stairs, I had a fun sign (Download it for free!) rigged to announce our entrance into the spa and my relaxation station playing on Pandora. The hearts on the sign dangled down so he’d have to bend down or get hit-hard to miss was my goal.
*Bonus idea-If you can handle scents burn some incense or candles. It’s just another simple touch to add to the fun.
Then I had a blanket set out with some couch pillows to give it atmosphere. We first did some light yoga and stretches, my pillow came in handy to cushion my tail bone on the hard floor. Then we did some meditation, which is much easier once my muscles are loosened up (they can be so distracting!). We didn’t talk much through this, after I meditate my ability to focus on my sweet spouse is exponentially better, so it was totally worth it.
We decided to just end on a massage. We took turns massaging each other and talking. Meditation wasn’t very conducive to conversation so now was the time to gab. Surprisingly, we had some great conversation, between all the contented sighs. 🙂 Something about releasing tension really helped us talk about deeper things and bond in a more meaningful way. We talked about our worries and fears, our concerns with the kids, and things that made us feel most vulnerable. It was fabulous!
I did have other things planned but, doing those three things was all we needed. We were quite happy to end the evening on that satisfying vibe. We didn’t even eat a snack. The commitment and fulfillment we gained from serving each other and making the other’s health a priority was enough to make it special for us.
It was pretty cool to achieve that with a date so simple-and cheap! We didn’t need to buy anything extra because the focus was on serving each other and releasing stress. Our living room served as a much better place to bond than any fancy restaurant has done for us.
And let me tell you-nothing is as relaxing as a massage after some deep meditation. A clear mind and loose muscles is a magical combo. I’m pretty sure that night was the first time in a year I had gotten some quality REM sleep. Best night’s sleep ever! I hope you can achieve similar results with your special one.
How do you like to be pampered?